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I have a tool to suggest. I call it the \u201cComplete Yes.\u201d And you can use this as a filter with everything you do in your life and work. So if it\u2019s not a \u201ccomplete yes\u201d, it\u2019s a NO. When we tell ourselves the truth about what isn\u2019t a complete yes, decision-making about your commitments becomes very easy.<\/p>\n
A complete yes has no story behind it. No intellectualizing. No guilt . No agony. No inner rumblings. No yeah, buts. No doing it to please others. No doing it to look good or be liked. No inner critic tapping on our shoulder. It\u2019s just YES. Period. And if it\u2019s not that, completely, it\u2019s a NO.<\/p>\n
And the easiest way to say no is with the fewest number of words. As soon as you start talking too much, those who request things of us start finding holes in our story. A professional, polite no sounds something like this:<\/p>\n
\u201cThank you so much for the offer\/opportunity\/thinking of me, but I already have a commitment so I\u2019m going to say no.\u201d That\u2019s it. It does the job. Is friendly. Respectful. And, what commitment do you have? To YOURSELF. To what reeeally matters in your life. And you don\u2019t need to get into this with anyone.<\/p>\n
More people will respect you just from the energy you bring to this. They may not fully get why, but they will \u201cfeel\u201d it from you. You will be doing more of what you really want. And your integrity will be fully intact without the need to run around cleaning up stories that aren\u2019t entirely true. Therefore, no guilt. No cobwebs. No regret. Just the truth from your authentic self. Now that is what I call \u201cstanding firmly in your own shoes.\u201d And as they say, Rock On!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
I have a tool to suggest. I call it the \u201cComplete Yes.\u201d And you can use this as a filter with everything you do in your life and work. So if it\u2019s not a \u201ccomplete yes\u201d, it\u2019s a NO. When we tell ourselves the truth about what isn\u2019t a complete yes, decision-making about your commitments […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[32,3,4],"tags":[8],"class_list":["post-30","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-career-advice-articles","category-freedom","category-habits-patterns-practices","tag-life-lessons"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/internalgroove.com\/2023dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/internalgroove.com\/2023dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/internalgroove.com\/2023dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/internalgroove.com\/2023dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/internalgroove.com\/2023dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=30"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/internalgroove.com\/2023dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1769,"href":"https:\/\/internalgroove.com\/2023dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30\/revisions\/1769"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/internalgroove.com\/2023dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=30"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/internalgroove.com\/2023dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=30"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/internalgroove.com\/2023dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=30"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}