What are the items on your self care checklist? Chances are there’s one that is so close you may have neglected to consider it. Most people do, even though it should be at the top of the list. Find out what it is here.
Often the answers to the deep questions about life are so close to us we don’t even see them.
That’s the case when it comes to self care and the voice in your head.
How we speak to ourselves is usually not even an item on our self care checklist, even though it should be number one.
In my years as a life, career, and certified money breakthrough method coach, I have come to realize how paramount self talk is when it comes to self care.
Hearing over and over again how unkind many people are in the way they think about and speak to themselves has made me sad and somewhat militant about encouraging my clients to be more conscientious.
Why should how you speak to yourself be at the top of your self care checklist?
Because the voice in your head is the loudest (and therefore the most important) voice there is!
It doesn’t matter how many compliments or how much encouragement you receive from others if the loudest voice is constantly beating you up, telling you you’re not good enough, that you can’t do it, and reminding you of all the things you should or shouldn’t be doing.
(As an aside, shoulds and shouldn’ts are actually someone else’s words that you have taken on as your own.)
Most people have no idea how powerful and influential their inner voice is.
It’s actually a form of self-hypnosis.
And when the content is predominantly negative, it leaves you hungry for validation from others.
The cycle of seeking approval from others leaves you feeling constantly frustrated from feeling unseen and undervalued.
Women, especially, have been conditioned in this society to be very unkind to themselves.
Everyone deserves to be honored, valued and appreciated, but it’s a quick recipe to burnout when we end up working our tails off for it from other people and are still not getting it.
You have to fill your own well first because looking for someone else to fill it will ensure that you have an empty well for the rest of your life.
Learn to be your own best advocate, and think of approval and validation from others as the cherry on top of your own self-value.
If you are someone who has a brutal inner critic, it may be time to seek help.
Talking to a trusted friend, getting a coach, or finding a therapist are options that can help you gain more awareness and cultivate a gentle, kind, loving inner voice.
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