What does it sound like when you say yes? It probably depends on whether you really mean it or not. If you are unsure about the strength of your yes, making this easy observation is sure to clue you in to the truth of the matter.
Making right choices is something we all struggle with from time to time.
Asking the question, “Does it feel good to me” is one way to exercise career wisdom in your decision-making process. This question helps you determine whether or not you are really sure you want to do something.
Let’s go a little deeper with this concept.
Say you get invited to an event.
You want to go, but you’re afraid you don’t have the right outfit.
Or you feel like you should go, but you would rather stay home and do some self-care.
Or your car is in the shop and you know accepting the invitation would be more of a hassle than you want to deal with.
In all of these cases, there are reservations about whether you really want to go or not.
That means you cannot accept the invitation with full confidence that it’s what you really want to do. In other words, your answer would not be a complete yes.
Asking the question, “Does it feel good to me” makes use of a tool I call (not surprisingly) The Complete Yes.
When you use this tool, you do not say yes to anything that is not fully and completely what you want to do.
If there are reservations for any reason, you cannot give a complete yes.
The complete yes sounds (and feels) like, “Yeah!”
It’s when you are excited about saying yes, and you have no doubts or questions about whether you should, whether you want to, whether there is something else you think your time would be better spent doing, whether you have the right clothes to wear, whether your car will make it, etc.
If your answer is not a complete yes, it’s a no.
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