Career Advice AUDIO / Self-Management

Take Notice

Take Notice

Do you find yourself feeling resentful, irritated or frustrated because no one seems to honor your time and your needs? If so, you may need to brush up on your boundary-setting skills. Listen and discover the important first step to setting clear, healthy boundaries.


An indispensable self management tool, and part of the formula for real power is setting (and honoring) clear, healthy boundaries for yourself.

When it comes to boundaries, no one can decide what’s right for you better than yourself, because boundaries are not a set it and forget it deal.

They require ongoing check-ins and tweaking as we grow and progress, and as the details of our lives fluctuate.

For example, if you’re involved with a work project that requires extra time, your boundaries will change with your family.

If you have a sick child or your house is being remodeled, your work and social boundaries will change.

Boundaries are so important, no matter what is going on in your life, especially if you are in a situation that brings up heavy feelings like resentment, anger, fear, shame, frustration or irritation.

It’s easy to get caught up in playing the victim when we don’t set (and of course honor) clear boundaries for ourselves.

One of the best parts of having clear, healthy boundaries is that it keeps YOU in charge.

You are the one who gets to decide whether something is healthy for you or not.

As you become more conscious about what is right for you, and more adept at holding your boundaries, you will find yourself feeling less like a victim.

The first and most important step to establishing healthy boundaries is to simply notice how you are feeling.

If you start feeling some of the heavy feelings I mentioned above, that’s a big clue that you may need to make an adjustment to your boundaries.

So make a habit of noticing how you are feeling throughout the day.

Notice what feels good to say yes to, and when it feels better to say no.

Make changes and adjustments as necessary.

There are no rules.

Just do whatever feels right to YOU… and as I always recommend, do it with grace and style!



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