When we hear the term “workplace solutions” most of us think about all the people and circumstances of our work environment we would like to change. In this audio clip, I’ll reveal a more fundamental component of workplace angst.
Many of my clients call me in tears about their job.
They have seemingly given up on finding workplace solutions and are ready to resign from their current position.
This is what I call a hair-on-fire situation.
It’s never a good idea to make a big decision like quitting a job when your hair’s on fire.
It’s never a good idea to make ANY big decision from such an emotional place.
So, after acknowledging that something big and uncomfortable is happening, I talk them out of saying something crazy or doing something they will regret.
We slow things down.
I help them come to a calm inner space so we can assess what’s happening from a more rational perspective.
More often than not, putting out the fire and coming to a more rational mind-space involves evaluating their habits and patterns of thought.
After all, it never is what’s going on that disturbs us. It’s what we tell ourselves about it.
Some questions we delve into to reveal those self-defeating habits and patterns of thought are:
- What are they thinking and telling themselves (about themselves and about the situation)?
- How are they valuing themselves and their contribution?
- How much do they want others to make them feel good rather than feeling good on their own?
Very often, a lot of pressure can be released simply by taming the voice in your head that has convinced you to hate your job because you are looking outside yourself for other people or circumstances to solve your problems.
In fact, I have found that addressing the inner voice and learning to use it constructively (rather than destructively) can facilitate life and difficult work situations much more quickly and effectively than trying to change your outer circumstances.
What habits and patterns of thought do you have that are tripping you up?
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